As for Stanger’s deplorable comments, they weren’t surprising. In my opinion, she’s a self-hating woman with a hateful attitude toward men. Her whole schtick is a simplistic and misguided attempt at a subversion intended not for undermining sexism/misogyny/homophobia but for using them for her own benefit and power. It’s a front for her to gain access to the type of men she desires and resents because they would never romantically pursue her, and to control them in a way she never could in any other role. Her ridiculous rules about her female candidates’ appearance reflect her issues with her own looks and are her way of, again, assuming an authoritative role over something that normally is her competition, something she can never be, and controlling, approving or rejecting it.
So her comments about queens are to be expected: Their possession of both male and female qualities I’m sure confuses and threatens her greatly, since her whole world caters to the most stereotypical, sexist hetero male mind-set who has little but contempt for anything feminine, an approach she has also accepted and adopted herself. And just like she does with the women (and men) on her show, she wants queens to feel inadequate and undesirable in their natural state.
These comments, along with those regarding gay promiscuity, Grindr, etc. show someone with very little knowledge of and actual interest in anything she cannot vicariously live through (i.e. a hetero relationship) and reveal her not as an advocate of love or a “matchmaker” but as an ignorant, self-hating woman who thrives personally and professionally on using the same stereotypes responsible for her condition to affirm and perpetuate lonely people’s sense of failure and inadequacy.” —Gawker commenter pistachionut’s amazing analysis of the likely motivations behind Millionaire Matchmaker Patti Stanger’s reprehensible statements about gay men on Sunday night’s Watch What Happens Live on Bravo